By Brooklyn White ·Updated November 19, 2021
Fourteen-year-old Zaya Wade has a firm understanding of the role that mental health plays in her life. The daughter of retired NBA player Dwyane Wade and Siohvaughn Funches, and the step-daughter of actress Gabrielle Union, she leads a private existence under the wings of her famous parents. Celebrity can be excruciating, adding to the complexity of being a teenage Black girl, but Zaya manages it with a warm sense of self and fierce boundaries.
In 2020, Zaya publicly came out as trans, receiving support from her family and being championed by young LGBTQ+ individuals globally. Showing up in the world as who she is has been fuel for others to do the same. She is uplifting and encouraging generations, while remaining a beacon of positivity for herself.
This week, Instagram asked Zaya to be a part of their #It’sOkToNot program, a live series of conversations centered around individuality. She opened the sequence with a session called “How We Heal from Here,” and after the event, we talked to Zaya about self-love, social media, boundaries and more. See our conversation below.
ESSENCE: What are some of the positive affirmations you use on a consistent basis?
Zaya Wade: I would say every morning and every night I look in the mirror and I tell myself, ‘I’m beautiful, I’m worth it and this day is going to be great.’ And at night I say, ‘I’m still beautiful and still worth it. And tomorrow is going to be great.’ And I have to tell myself that every day. I think it’s really helps me get through each day and start off another day on a positive note.
ESSENCE: How and when did you realize that having an optimistic mindset would influence your external world?
Zaya Wade: I would say probably during the start of COVID when my mindset went a lot more negative and I could just tell, even in my household, just everything seemed a lot more drab and there was a gray [cloud] and I just realized that I have to start thinking on a positive note. I started diving into passions and focusing on how things are going to go instead of how things are going. And I realized that having a very optimistic mindset really helps other people have their opportunities to have an optimistic mindset as well.
ESSENCE: What is growing up as a Black girl in the digital age like for you?
Zaya Wade: Honestly, it’s normal and it’s only because I decide for it to be normal. There is a lot of hatred for Black girls, especially with social media and how easy it is to spread across messages of hate. I decide to not focus on that. I decided to focus on the positive and…those people don’t matter. Their opinions don’t affect me. So I decide to be positive in life.
So growing up as a Black girl in this very, very insane time, especially with media, it is normal and positive for me because I make the decision every single day to not let negativityinto my mind.
ESSENCE: Can you talk about the necessity of boundaries?
Zaya Wade: I think that [they] are essential for my emotional and mental health. I think without boundaries, you start to overwhelm yourself and you start to feel so much like excessive
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